In a land far far away, there was this little girl who had such a wide, fertile field. She wanted to use the land for something useful and give back to others. So she asked people around her to plant some seeds there. Her parents, brothers, and friends all planted some seeds. Some grew beautifully because these people she let in water and take care of the plants carefully, so that it wouldn’t hurt the field. But some also withered.
One day, she started realizing that she wanted to grow a huge, center-piece tree in the middle of her field where she could rest upon when she felt tired and the one that would shelter her from the heat of the sun. But she did not have the seed.
So she searched for it. She then met a person who gave her a seed, but the seed was too young, it couldn’t grow well.
Then along the way, she met someone who has been really persistent wanting to give her a seed for years. Her family and friends have kept telling her that his seed was poisonous and might ruin her soil. But after years and years of asking, finally the girl cave in and let the guy plant his seed. But it turned out that the seed was indeed poisonous. It ruined the soil, the seed was not even growing and it almost ruined the roots of her other plants which was grown by her family and friends. The guy did not even care and so she took the seed away and threw it out. But the soil was still left broken and sick.
After awhile, the soil got thicker and healthier. She then found this new guy from far away land. A land she have only heard of. The guy offered his seed to the girl. But because of her latest failure, she couldn’t trust the guy too fast. Because she knew that if the soil got ruined once again, it might not be able to recover as fast. So she tried hard to be careful with the new seed and the new guy although from what she could see, the guy seemed really genuine and his seed was healthy too. The guy came often to check up on the seed she left with the girl, and when he did, he came to water all the growing plants in the field too even if they were not even his.
The girl kept asking the guy if the seed was fine and that he’d come often to water the plant with her. Maybe she asked too much that it reached the point where the guy started to wonder what else he could do to convince the girl. At one point, the guy gave the girl a knife to open the seed pocket and see by herself if it was good. But if it is opened before its planted, it may not produce the best plant. So she could not do that even if he forced her to. And now she ended up feeling upset as she felt as if she had just ruined the possibility of a beautiful partnership with this guy. She kept regretting the fact that she had doubted his promises too much.
She also felt as if the guy was starting to yield into someone he was not just to please the girl. And that’s not fair. That’s the beginning of a toxic partnership and she did not want that. Because she knew that being with someone who could not stand on his own principle would feel like she’s playing ping-pong by herself, or dancing tango alone, or playing chess by herself.
She was utterly saddened by this and she did not even know how to express her thoughts to the guy who”s also left confused by her retaliation.